Relationships Are Mirrors: How Triggers Reveal Data, Build Capacity, and Lead Us to Self-Love
Discover how relationships act as mirrors—revealing hidden wounds, subconscious patterns, and the love we still seek. Learn how triggers are data, peace and standards are filters, and self-love is the divine path to healing and capacity.
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Welcome to Behavior Is Data
Hi, I’m Towanda Carrigan—Behavioral Strategist, Divine Leader, and founder of 2Wanda Brands.
This blog is my personal space to share insights, stories, and strategies that help us remember one truth:
All behavior is Data. Capacity is Mental Fitness. Self-love is Divine Purpose.
Whether you’re a direct support professional, caregiver, educator, or agency leader, this space is for you. Here, you’ll find reflections that bring clarity, strategies you can apply right away, and encouragement for the journey of care and leadership.
I’d love for you to join the conversation. Share your story, reflect on your “why,” and let’s keep building systems where every brain can thrive.
INTRODUCTION
Relationships are mirrors. Attraction may draw us in, but beneath the surface, we are often searching for the love we never received. This is why relationships bring triggers—they are reflections of our wounds, surfacing data from our unhealed stories.
The teaching moment is this: protecting our peace, boundaries, and standards is not distance, dismissal, or exclusion. These are not walls that push love away. Instead, they are filters—sacred tools that make space for alignment, healing, and truth.
THE RSP™ LENS
When we decode the trigger, we build capacity. When we choose reflection over repetition, we step into mental fitness. And when we meet the trigger with compassion, we practice the deepest form of self-love—divine purpose in action.
Credit: Video from @queenenergymindset, shared with commentary by Towanda Carrigan | IAM2WANDA
At 2Wanda Brands, we believe: All behavior is Data. Capacity is Mental Fitness. Self-love is Divine Purpose.
