Behavior Is Not Identity: Location Is Not the Final Destination
Behavior is not who someone is—it’s where they are. Learn how awareness, self-love, and divine alignment transform behavior into data for healing, not identity.
Welcome to Behavior Is Data
Hi, I’m Towanda Carrigan—Behavioral Strategist, Divine Leader, and founder of 2Wanda Brands.
This blog is my personal space to share insights, stories, and strategies that help us remember one truth:
All behavior is Data. Capacity is Mental Fitness. Self-love is Divine Purpose.
Whether you’re a direct support professional, caregiver, educator, or agency leader, this space is for you. Here, you’ll find reflections that bring clarity, strategies you can apply right away, and encouragement for the journey of care and leadership.
I’d love for you to join the conversation. Share your story, reflect on your “why,” and let’s keep building systems where every brain can thrive.
INTRODUCTION
Behavior is not who someone is—it’s where they are.
Behavior doesn’t define a person’s true identity; it reflects their current location, their state of being in this moment. Just like standing on a map doesn’t tell the whole story of someone’s journey, behavior only shows where they are right now—not where they are destined to go. Location is not always the final destination; sometimes it’s just a rest stop, sometimes it’s a detour, and sometimes it’s a lesson. If it aligns with your path, it will choose you with ease, without force, and without confusion. If it doesn’t, no matter how tightly you try to hold on, it will eventually release you—and that release is not loss, but redirection toward what is truly yours
Here’s the teachable moment: behavior often doesn’t reveal how someone feels about you, but how they feel about themselves.
So many times we take someone’s actions personally, when in truth their behavior is more about their internal world than about our worth. Their reactions, silence, distance, or even inconsistency often reflect their self-perception, their regulation, or their struggles—not your value. With awareness, we gain the ability to observe instead of absorb. We can watch without disturbing our peace, protect ourselves without breaking our boundaries, and honor our standards without lowering them for temporary comfort. We don’t have to disconnect from people entirely, but we must refuse to disconnect from ourselves. That awareness is what allows us to remain grounded, compassionate, and strong, even when others are unsettled.
THE RSP™ LENS
Behavior will either align and choose you—or it won’t.
And when it doesn’t, that is your signal to release, to step aside, and to let things move as they must. You don’t have to chase what doesn’t choose you. You don’t have to convince what doesn’t honor you. Self-love is the gatekeeper here—it creates the sacred space where alignment can enter and remain. When you fully embody self-love, confusion cannot linger and dishonor cannot survive. Divine purpose then takes its rightful place as the filter, ensuring that only what truly mirrors your essence, your clarity, and your calling will stay. Our journey is dominion—an ordered path, not random steps. And everything that encounters us must either conform to that dominion or be released by it.
Credit: Video from @womensoulunleashed, shared with commentary by Towanda Carrigan | IAM2WANDA
At 2Wanda Brands, we believe: All behavior is Data. Capacity is Mental Fitness. Self-love is Divine Purpose.
